And here we are already with part three of our ongoing series “Ask Secregeek”. In this series of postings, I will answer the more interesting search queries that people find my weblog with – in the hope of improving your lives.
I am so proud of my altruistic nature.
Today’s question is very important, yet very simple at the same time:
“Why do Asian Girls like White Guys?”
It’s really simple. Really. I mean, just think. You can’t come up with the answer yourself? Okay, let me rephrase this.
Have you ever seen an Asian porn movie?
NOW do you get the idea?
Sigh. I guess not, considering you have to dig on obscure blogs for the answer. Okay, I’ll give you another hint: It’s pretty much the same reason why white chicks dig black guys.
I could’ve even made that rhyme. But I really don’t want to be flagged as “mature”, because I really am not.
If you still didn’t get it, I ain’t gonna help you. Go and download some Asian porn until you wise up.
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November 17th, 2006 at 9:12 pm
sandniggah
I disagree, and it’s a subject on which I have about 12 years of first hand research.
I can’t speak for Japanese on the issue of prowess preference of sexual partner, however Malaysian (Bumiputra and Hokkien Chinese), Singaporean, Thai, Filipina, Taiwanese, Indian, Sri Lankan and Mongolian have all been included in my survey.
Many of the aforementioned nationalities are not comfortable with excessive size, in fact some are much more motivated by the chance of snagging a ‘White’ guy purely for the chance of a possible marriage and a better life in the west.
I do however agree with you on the reason why White chix are into Black guys….but we have to remember that white chix are much, much larger than Asians and therefore are much more suitable for physically dealing with what’s coming their way from a black guy.
November 17th, 2006 at 9:34 pm
secretgeek
Ho-humm. My experience may be more limited than that, but it is as I described. I have no doubt financial reasons play a part in many cases, but when it comes right down to it, all other things being equal… the white guy wins on biological terms.
Now, an interesting question would be why black girls like white guys. That is something I don’t get.
November 17th, 2006 at 9:49 pm
sandniggah
Personal hygiene. :)
November 17th, 2006 at 9:56 pm
secretgeek
I don’t really think so. In fact, judging by many of my contemporaries, I would expect the opposite.
December 4th, 2006 at 5:23 pm
secretwink
its because black girls are tired or being treated like whores and sluts by black guys. for some reason, black guys seem to appreciate a white girl more than a black girl. and white girls like black guys simply for this reason…… black guys are smooth and are considered more “romantic” than white guys. they’re rich color gives off a sexy look, and you don’t see many black guys that can’t dance. i know that there are some who can’t, but you don’t see very many. sorry, but the fact is that we like guys who can dance, its a big turn on.
December 4th, 2006 at 10:14 pm
secretgeek
Black people in general can dance. It’s in their culture. Yeah, hey, I am a geek, I can’t dance, I spend my time pondering the implications of m-theory.
I wouldn’t know how black guys treat black girls, that’s not something I am usually in the middle of, but I will take your word for it. ;) Though I guess that kinda conflicts with the notion that they are more “romantic”.
I still think that white girls also do like black guys because of the size stereotype.
Maybe, in the end, it boils down to the old saying about the grass always being greener on the other side of the fence.
December 4th, 2006 at 10:34 pm
secretgeek
Bah, I replied to this and now it’s gone… well, tomorrow.
December 4th, 2006 at 10:38 pm
secretgeek
Ah there it is. WordPress.com flagged it as “spam”. Go figure.
December 5th, 2006 at 2:48 am
secretwink
yes, you are right by the way. although chicks do not like to admit it, the size DOES count. and as we know, black guys are usually bigger. anyways, they’re only romantic when their around white chicks. its kinda hard to explain, even if im not a man or black for that matter, i have seen this many times, and it seems to work pretty well. also, as we are all only human, of course we are always going to want what we don’t have yet, so with your saying about the grass being greener, its true, and the greener one will always be on the opposite side we’re on.
December 9th, 2006 at 12:43 am
secretgeek
Just as an aside to this discussion; the BBC has an article about the problems of international condom standards in India. YMMV.
January 2nd, 2007 at 2:32 am
Myeisha
Hey I am a black female and just to help you girls out, black males ( what I have always seen ) date white girls because they tend to give them what ever they want. They take a lot of white girls for their money and cheat on them. It is a sad thing but I am just informing you all the truth in a loooooottttt of cases white girls are targeted as ” marks “. There is usually no respect given after they have what they want. ” Don’t be a mark “. Or hell do what ever you want. Just know the truth.
January 2nd, 2007 at 11:48 am
secretgeek
Hello Myeisha, and welcome to the blog.
Well, that doesn’t really sound all that different from how some guys generally treat women (present company excepted of course). Maybe we should volunteer Dizzy or Secretwink for some field research.
But since you dropped by, maybe you can tell us why black girls like to date white guys? That was also a question that we didn’t quite settle yet, I believe, and a question which I do have a personal interest in :-D
January 4th, 2007 at 6:16 pm
DIZZY
okay well hunny not all black guys are like that i have no clue were you are raised but it must be one hella screwed up place… and you are putting a mark and judging evry white girl as a piece of ass and im sorry but you need to get your facts straight befor you acuse… and just so you know i am a quarter black and i have no white in me what so ever so secretgeek maybe you need to get your facts straight also…. i am done with this racest BULLSHIT!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
January 4th, 2007 at 6:23 pm
DIZZY
AND WHY THE HELL SHOULD RACES COMBINE I MEAN WE LIVE ON THE SAME EARTH EAT THE SAME THINGS AND DO ALL THE SAME THINGS SO WHY THE HELL DO WE HAVE TO KNOW THESE THINGS… AND MYEISHA MIGHT SAY BECAUSE WHITE GUYS ARE PUSH OVER AND GIVE US WHAT EVER WE WANT…… IF SHE CAN ACUSE WHY THE HELL CANT I……….!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
January 4th, 2007 at 6:24 pm
DIZZY
O AND THE FIRST SENTENCE IS SUPPOSE TO SAY ~AND WHY THE HELL SHOULDN’T RACES COMBINE~
January 4th, 2007 at 6:26 pm
DIZZY
SO MAYBE YOUR NEXT THING SHOULD BE WHY DO SOME BLACK GIRLS THINK THEY KNOW EVERYTHING……,….
January 4th, 2007 at 8:58 pm
secretgeek
I didn’t know you had it in you, Dizzy! But beware. Anger, fear, aggression. The dark side are they. Once you start down the dark path, forever will it dominate your destiny.
*coughs and clears voice*
Eh, seems we hit a sore spot there. My apologies. I of course did not know your ethnicity, and it doesn’t matter really. Assuming you were white was a good bet (82.1% of Americans are white), and besides, you two are the only (regularily posting) women here. I meant no offense.
It just didn’t fit otherwise.
Well – on the other hand – I guess I could volunteer Rover to research black guys, but, well, I think he isn’t that flexible.
I am all about races mingling and mixing. Did you look at the Chicks section of The Cast? I am kind of an inverted racist. All other things being equal I’d pick a Black or Asian girl over a German one. (I know I am gonna get accused of being superficial now, aren’t I? But I hope you understand where I am actually coming from.)
January 8th, 2007 at 10:39 pm
dizzy
well i guess that i can over look the racism that you are kinda projecting.. but in the other hand i really do not understand what you are trying ot say i mean i get the drift but not the facts okay bye bye and yah i do have it in me and that just shows you that you never really know a person
January 9th, 2007 at 4:20 am
secretgeek
Ah, Dizzy, Dizzy, don’t leave me. We need you here. And I am really not a racist. In no way, shape, or form. Ask Rover.
January 9th, 2007 at 9:40 pm
dizzy
for some reason you put out like one then… and i am sorry myeisha said dont be mark well hunny just given you the same advice that you gave me dont be a mark and say shit that you have no clue about cuz the only thing that you are doing is making yourself sound like a racist butt….
and that is the first time in a long time that i have actually got mad like that and why the hell shouldnt i leave if all these people are going to be is racist.?????????????????
January 10th, 2007 at 10:00 am
secretgeek
Oh, I can’t speak for Myeisha of course. Her opinion is hers. Take it as it is. I thought you got angry at me?!
That you get angry at racism makes you a good person. You should stick around for the discussions of mermaids and unicorns; for the confusing discourse between secretwink and myself, and of course because we geeks need feedback from real people. And of course to fight back the racism and show them how dumb it is.
And, of course, because I’ll ask Secretwink to tie you to your chair.
January 10th, 2007 at 9:06 pm
Rover
I can attest that Secretgeek is definitely not racist. Relax Dizzy :)
Anyway, I don’t really have an opinion (no idea why Secretgeek wants me to investigate black guys, must be a fantasy of his or something…) on this subject. To be honest, I barely know any couple in which both members have a different skin color.
Now we could discuss as to why blondes prefer brunettes and vice versa :)
January 11th, 2007 at 10:51 am
secretgeek
Do they?
January 12th, 2007 at 6:25 pm
secretwink
haha! how interesting this conversation has gotten since the last time. well now, where to begin? my mouth actually opened in shock when i read Dizzy’s comment, who knew that she was so opinionated? but it is of course, about racism. i just don’t understand how people CAN be racist, i mean, black is beautiful and white is fair. i know a lot of white chicks who hate black, but then they go to tanning beds 4 times a week to get darker skin. it doesn’t make sense.
what do you mean you’ll get me to tie her to her chair?? after that blow up from her, i wouldn’t want to mess with her. i really don’t have a death wish.
well if its not secretgeeks fantasy, it sure is mine. :)
ah yes, the wonderful question of blondes and brunettes, the real question is….do we really want to get into it? i don’t think it really counts in a way….whether you blonde or brunette. im told that i have the greatest color for a brunette and i want to be blonde. the question of why blondes want brunettes is never to be answered only for this reason……
they don’t. well i guess what im saying is that, it’s mostly the person that they go for (or it should be cuz that would be really messed up if they only like them for their hair) and blondes like blondes and brunettes like brunettes all the time. i like brunettes myself. :)
now i’ve got a question…….why are red heads never included on the war between blondes and brunettes?
January 15th, 2007 at 9:14 am
Rover
They do indeed! Oh the stories I could tell ;)
January 15th, 2007 at 9:48 am
secretgeek
Secretwink, that is actually what I always used to say. “I don’t understand why white people are racist, and then go to Mallorca to bake in the sun to get darker.”
I actually think racism may, in part, be based on envy.
So your fantasy is for Rover to investigate black guys?
You gotta tie Dizzy to her chair so she doesn’t leave us. I thought she was one of your friends that you wanted to drag in for more female feedback?
And, just to clear it up, I do like black women. I’d ask Dizzy what the other parts of her are (she said 25% black, no white) except that I am afraid she’d think I’d be trying to hit on her and hate me even more. :-(
January 16th, 2007 at 7:57 pm
dizzy
well actualy i was and still am mad at you… so you were right with what you thought in the first place…okay well then and no i do not think you are trying to hit on me so stop trying to make it seem like you know me… and okay i am 25% black 25% cuban and 50%puerto rican…. are you going to be racist about that one????????
January 16th, 2007 at 7:58 pm
secretwink
i would think that if you were hitting on her, she would know, wouldn’t she? it seems that “female feedback” is making this a crazy site, do you really want this?
i think it’s funny how the white envy the black (or darker). i’ve been envied for my skin color at times. im hawaiian, so i stay darker than all the others during the winter. of course i’ve been hated for it too………
either that or i would like to investigate them myself, hands on. ;)
January 16th, 2007 at 8:00 pm
dizzy
and to rover one thing that really pisses me off is telling me to relax or calm down…. but i am not mad at him he was not aware…
January 17th, 2007 at 1:17 am
secretgeek
Hey, I am all for crazyness, Secretwink. The only thing I am now afraid of is that if Dizzy ever finds out where my desk stands, she will come and strangle me or something.
Dizzy I think that’s a good mix. But I guess I understand why you are very touchy about the subject. I am not an American, but, hey, we get American pop culture over here. Anyway. don’t be angry at me now. Please? I promise I shan’t say another word about your heritage. (Except that I think it’s cool. So there.)
January 17th, 2007 at 7:37 am
sandniggah
Wow. How the hell did I miss this one..?
I suppose not keeping an eye on the comments column. Duh! Stupid me.
January 17th, 2007 at 5:30 pm
secretwink
yes, its gotten exceptionally interesting.
dizzy? strangle you? no, she’s about as mild as a kitten. theres no need to worry (but just for safety, don’t give your address). just kidding. anyways, i think that we all agree on one thing, we’re all not racists, so why are we fighting?
January 17th, 2007 at 7:17 pm
secretgeek
No idea why we’re fighting. Ask Dizzy.
Kittens do have claws.
January 20th, 2007 at 12:13 am
secretwink
you guys are totally missing eachothers point all together. i find it amusing.
yeah, but they only claw when they play, so is she just playing around?
January 20th, 2007 at 1:23 am
secretgeek
I couldn’t say; you know Dizzy better than I do.
January 20th, 2007 at 7:48 am
secretwink
yes, but you probably like her more than i do. possibly that comes from me knowing her TOO much? now watch, im gonna get royaly bitched slapped.
January 20th, 2007 at 9:10 am
secretgeek
Then I better not touch this one, but instead watch the fireworks from a distance.
January 24th, 2007 at 4:39 pm
secretwink
but the fireworks are intriguing and beautiful are they not? dangerous, but beautiful.
January 24th, 2007 at 4:41 pm
dizzy
i am sorry but that is the first time that i have been called a kitten it normaly stays at bitch…. but i guess you can say that i have a very short fuse that when it goes of it EXPLODES. so now all of oyu people who think they are tough enough to talk shit think again cuz i will always have something to say about it!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
January 24th, 2007 at 4:51 pm
secretgeek
Hence “watching from a distance”. I also heard there were claws involved.
January 24th, 2007 at 5:11 pm
secretgeek
*hides behind Secretwink to escape the Wrath of Dizzy*
January 26th, 2007 at 6:57 pm
dizzy
i am sorry but nobody is going to be able to protect your ass if i hated you then the devil himself couldnt help…. and secretwink couldnt stop me even though she likes to think that she can…… did you like it on my last comment on the other thing she did sound really ffff–nnn despersate
January 27th, 2007 at 10:14 am
secretgeek
Well then I am glad there is no reason for you to hate me. And that you don’t know where I am! Ha! And don’t think I am giving up the secure feeling of having Secretwink as a Dizzystopper in front of me.
The Savannah chick? Well, she was desperate alright, but I guess it’s unbearable when you can’t figure out the mystery of the mermaid. Of course I did tell her how they did that. Can’t ignore a lady in distress, now can we?
January 31st, 2007 at 4:30 pm
secretwink
actually you can. j/k. well i suppose i could be used as a shield, just know that you owe me if i take the punishment for you. and i kinda have so i need that favor. its more like advice, you are more of an advice giver and i really need that right now. you always talk about your co-workers and chicks and stuff, so now i need you to help me with something that im trapped with.
ok, what do you when you get this guy to really like you when he was practically engaged and then his “fiance” is kinda like your friend and says th at he’s being wierd cuz she has no clue what i’ve been doing and then she asks for advice on what to do about it? i mean, i want him, but i don’t want to have him hurt her. does that make sense? and then i don’t even know what to tell her because the reason why he’s acting wierd is because of me. arg, i feel so helpless right now.
January 31st, 2007 at 5:01 pm
secretgeek
Well, you know there are two solutions, right?
The fun solution and the right solution.
The right solution is to not do anything, afterall, you lose a potential love interest or whatever you wish to call it, but you’d also lose a friend. There’s always more guys, but real friends are more difficult to get. Your hormones will calm down after a while.
The fun solution is of course to go ahead and take what you want. Afterall, it being a hidden and forbidden thing only makes it more fun! Just don’t blame me if things hit the fan afterwards.
Of course, if her fiance is letting himself tempted by other women, that’s not gonna be a very happy marriage anyway. Presumably. If she ever finds out.
Of course, if you’re talking about dizzy, my recommendation is NOT to mess with her. She seems dangerous.
January 31st, 2007 at 5:07 pm
DIZZY
no thies girl is not her fsriend they are people that know each other not friends they talk thats it… so i would say go for it she has been going for this guy FOR EVER
January 31st, 2007 at 5:13 pm
secretwink
i know, and really want him, but i don’t want to feel the guilt. she really is a nice girl and no, we’re not REALLY good friends. but it hurt my evilness when she came into the room and asked ME what she should do. she’s trusting me to give her advice, when im the reason he acts like that. you didn’t exactly give me advice secretgeek. i need you to TELL ME WHAT TO DO!!
January 31st, 2007 at 5:20 pm
secretgeek
Sure, then I guess going for it is okay. Just don’t complain next time someone steals your guy. ;) Equal rights, and such.
January 31st, 2007 at 5:30 pm
secretgeek
Well, hey, you know *I* would never touch another man’s girl. (Well, except once, but they were already getting a divorce.)
(Actually make that twice. The second one also was getting a divorce though.)
(Crap, make it four times, but the third one hated her boyfriend and the fourth was a REALLY good friend and, well, also a little drunk.)
So, uh, I would say… be evil. Live a little. Just don’t blame me afterwards. At least I think I will have Dizzy on my side then.
January 31st, 2007 at 11:07 pm
secretwink
i see, dizzy is that important huh? hmm, i guess i’ll try and remember who was here first.
shame shame shame. that last one is horrible. you took advantage of a drunk girl. *shakes head in a disgusted manner*
February 1st, 2007 at 12:08 am
secretgeek
Well, Dizzy seems to have the fighting spirit that is good to have on one’s side when one’s being blamed for telling others to be evil.
As for the drunk girl, she just had a few drinks, not what you’d really call drunk.
February 2nd, 2007 at 11:39 pm
The Rover
Let me try to sneak in some advice for secretwink… although it would be easier if I knew your age.
First, I have to say that every time I’ve known of stories like “girl is after boy for ages, he keeps going for someone else”, the “boy” is a loser and the “girl” is… not very smart to be going after him.
Not saying that this is the case, but just felt I had to point this statistic out
If she isn’t your friend, then go for it. But you reap what you sow, and if you succeed, stay alert of a man who leaves a fiancee for another woman: it could happen to you next, like secretgeek said.
It’s a chance you gotta take, but I think it’s best to take it instead of wondering for the rest of your life “what could have been”.
I will add the same disclaimer that secretgeek did: if anything goes wrong, don’t blame me.
February 6th, 2007 at 11:06 pm
secretwink
it doesn’t matter anyways, i did some pretty stupid stuff and now he can’t even look at me without saying something like “Bitch” or “asshole”. so i don’t think i need help for it anymore. well i now know not to go for practically marrried men now don’t i?
well….maybe im not smart then. possibly i wasn’t ever smart to begin with.
as for the whole dizzy thing…..whatever.
February 7th, 2007 at 1:22 am
secretgeek
Well, I am sorry. It happens. At least you tried, right? Unlike me, who usually doesn’t try, and then regrets that for a long time.
February 20th, 2007 at 10:46 pm
secretwink
trying was an idiot move. it really shouldn’t have happened, and SOMEONE should have been smart enough to tell me not to.
February 21st, 2007 at 4:36 am
secretgeek
It’s all Rover’s fault, really.
February 21st, 2007 at 10:53 pm
Rover
Would you prefer living your whole life not knowing “what could have been”?
Trying was probably not an idiot move. HOW did you try?
February 28th, 2007 at 7:57 pm
secretwink
it doesn’t matter. believe guys, im skilled in this. i have been taking others men for quite some time. yes, a very horrible fact, but it suites me fine. i was just asking on whether i should do it. it turns out though that the bitch of the guy i was stealing caught on and notified him about somethings. so it all burned because i fell for the whole “she’s so innocent and nice that she’ll never catch on act”.
and yes, i would prefer living and still know that i have never failed in my attempt with all the others, then to fail and have to live with it.
February 28th, 2007 at 8:58 pm
secretgeek
So, what you’re saying is you’ll consider it a learning experience that will further the perfection of your hobby?
March 4th, 2007 at 1:08 am
secretspeak
Shoot there is one answer. Ever heard of movie integration? White guys beating up mass populations of grunting baddys for MI6. They see the pop culture icons and hope to land one of those hunky rich guys with a package. If [aging] jackie chan is the only asian famer besides a [hiding] jet li its really obvious.
March 6th, 2007 at 9:13 pm
secretwink
who is secretspeak? and why are we all secret? haha.
March 7th, 2007 at 12:01 am
secretgeek
‘Cause I am a trend setter. Didn’t I mention geeks are cool?
*cough, cough*
Anyway. Uh. How was your day?
March 7th, 2007 at 12:21 am
secretwink
which one are you asking? * laughs at the oddity of it all*
March 10th, 2007 at 7:10 am
anonymous asian
Hey just to fill you guys in, on a little secret, the asian chix that goes for white guys and black guys are usually sluts. SORRY But it’s a fact. Before anybody gets all defensive, there are asian girls that are emotionally attach to men of any colors. If you see an old asian lady with a black man or a white man or mexicans, it’s because they’ve been happily marry for years. Those women are for real. Most of the young asian chix that you see now aday, they date black guys because they can dance and party, and b/c of their size. They are in it for the pleasure. As far as commitments, don’t expect too much, cuz you won’t get any. Why they date white guys, 2 reason, white men are generally considered successful, and their features are considered attractive. They want money and looks. In short, asian chix that goes for blacks or white are like any other gold diggers out there. “EXCLUDING THE FEWS THAT ARE ACTUALLY IN LOVE”
March 11th, 2007 at 12:23 am
secretgeek
Interestingly, that is what people here in Germany think about women who are with black guys. I mean, the stereotype is clear. “Oh she likes him only for size matters.”
And in some cases that is true. But in general I think it’s an accusation born out of the insecurity and envy of the accuser.
As always, I mean no offense.
March 22nd, 2007 at 7:03 pm
secretwink
perhaps it is more based on the person and it just so happens that thier a diff. color? maybe its not the color at all.
April 4th, 2007 at 4:32 am
david
As a Canadian born, white male (with a 10 inch pussy wrecker) married to a china born transplanted Canadian woman (98 pound petite, openly sexual), I can honestly say,”A big dick” is “NOT”all she likes about me. I’m not rich, in fact I’m just an out of work (pt student) bar manager and she works for a major telecom. company. She is also younger then me by 18 yrs, and on a scale of 1 to 10 , She is a 11 and if I may be so bold, I’m a 8 My wife is nuclear and I’m a water wheel. She speaks 3 languages and I muddle through with 1.The reason I’m responding to this article ( Why Asian girls like white guys),is simple…..Sometimes people get together because they like and enjoy each others company. That being said she went to work with a sore pussy and still bough me a bag of chips.Wait a minute……CRAP !!!……. DAM !!! …… SHIT !!!.. ……… She does like my pecker !!! I STILL love you babe, great sex last night,and this morning, thanks for the chips.
April 15th, 2007 at 9:29 am
Eric
Black guys are more romanic and senseual then white guys?LoL wow I thought the sterio type of Black guys was the oppisit that they where more crude,volgar,agressive and that Whites from southern europen countries and hispanics/latins where know for beeing the best lovers.The fact is that most Woman of any race is attracted to a dominate man many white men in America esspecially are pussies they are not agressive,possive towards their women nore are many willing to fight most just step aside coz they are affaird of black people and affaird of the pc laws that would be applied against them if they stud up and said something like go to your own club and push up on your own women or just beat the guy senseless as is more likely to happen to a white guy who did the same in a predominately black club,neighborhood etc.As for Asian women who like White guys well, I don’t think they are generally attracted to any random white guy it seems more they are attracted to a certian type of white guy one of social status,ivy league education,preppy good job and more anglo looking as opposed to a more blue collar southern europen white who happens to be attractive
April 17th, 2007 at 10:54 pm
secretspeak
Hmmm David seemz like the only thing you wreck are public forums and blogz with your attrocious grammar and semi-idiotic banter. I doubt your story and dare i say no one carez. I must say you started off well disregarding the wrecker statement but you then seemed to be a 16 year old horny freak that just got DSL and googled geeks (tips on how to make fun of such) and found this site.
April 24th, 2007 at 5:13 pm
secretwink
i agree, thats kinda what i was thinking as i read it. either that, or its just another retarded old guy…..but i doubt it.
its true. not ALL black guys are romantic, some are too aggressive and can care the hell less if your with him or not. but the ones that i have dated seem to have a couple things in common. they would rather die than see you upset, they are extremely protective, they are creatively romantic, and no matter where your at they’re proud to call you thier woman. the white guys i’ve dated have one or two of those characteristics, but they are hardly ever romantic. or maybe i just get the wrong type. :)
April 25th, 2007 at 5:40 am
secretgeek
You just got the wrong type.
April 26th, 2007 at 6:35 pm
secretwink
how do you figure?
April 27th, 2007 at 8:45 am
secretgeek
There are romantic white guys. And I am pretty sure there are also ones that combine all of your requirements. Speaking as a white guy. And I am not saying I am one of those “perfect” guys. Wouldn’t know – never dated myself.
April 27th, 2007 at 3:53 pm
secretwink
never?? well you should try it sometime. then you can tell your next girlfriend what your like so she doesn’t have to guess. haha.
i wouldn’t know, i’ve never met one with all of the “requirements” combined. i would like to though……just to see what it was like.
April 27th, 2007 at 8:48 pm
secretspeak
Speaking in general is wrong. Its like saying during ww2 all germans were Nazis. It all depends on how they were raised. Anyone can be romantic. I have been introduced to a culture in which nigga(no er) is appropriate male female black white. Even white people who grew up in the areas are allowed to say nigga. So it depends on how and where you were raised.
April 30th, 2007 at 9:04 am
secretgeek
Wasn’t “coloured” acceptable in the 1920 and “African-American” a bad insult? I forgot. Anyway, times and fads change and so does the use of language. News at 11.
May 14th, 2007 at 11:20 pm
secretwink
well someone will always be offended, you just have to get used to it. i don’t think its ALL in how your raised. i mean, i know some jack ass guys who were raised just fine, they just took it upon themselves later in life to forget how they were raised.
June 2nd, 2007 at 7:41 pm
ThePirateM
Despite the ridiculous post, thanks to David for trying to get this thing back on track. I was getting bored.
About me: White, 43, average looks, dance (well, I’m told), good job (software geek), sense of humor, extremely non-racist. I’m married to a Chinese woman who is only a few years younger than me. I’m not sure what to say about my “appendage” other than to say it is average. No, that’s not a white guy trying to hide his size. Honestly, I’m average.
I disagree big time with you, secretgeek. I think it is an insult to most Asian women to state they like white guys because they have more wood between their legs than Asian men.
In fairness to your remark however, I should say my wife told me after our first few sexual encounters I was “big” to her and she liked it. So maybe there is a little truth to that (no pun intended.)
But we had known each other many many months — and became engaged — before we even saw each other naked. So we were friends and fell in love before she had the opportunity to “judge” my manliness.
I did a lot of investigation of the cultural differences between American and Chinese cultures (especially between husbands and wives) and tried to understand the challenges we would face before I felt comfortable allowing our friendship grow into a romance.
Most of what I discovered — and now can say with firsthand experience — Asian women consider western men more romantic and considerate of their wives. I consider my wife my partner, not a servant or prize. That was very different than she experienced or was even raised to believe. There is also the openness that exists in the American culture. Freedom. We take it for granted sometimes in the U.S. But believe me many other countries and cultures just don’t have the kind of freedom we do. If you think that isn’t attractive to Asians (or men/women of any other country), then you need more study on world cultures.
Y’all, there are cultural differences between people of difference races and countries. I think we should celebrate them, not discourage and find conflict with them.
To even think that the size of a guy’s dick drives an entire culture of women to want to leave their country and or marry a man 18 years their senior is plain ignorant. Not stupid…just uninformed.
Another question…at least for this thread would be “Why do white guys like Asian girls?” I’ll bet you’d get the same kind of passionate responses on that question if you to asked.
June 2nd, 2007 at 8:03 pm
secretgeek
Pirate I don’t think relationships were the focus of our conversation. Of course there’s that, and the factor of “exoticism”, and the grass always being greener on the other continent.
But that wouldn’t make for a good sarcastic take on stupid search queries, now would it?
June 2nd, 2007 at 10:28 pm
ThePirateM
Ahh…I suppose the definition of “like” is then in question, eh? There’s “like” for sex and “like” for the long haul. You’re right, I was thinking more of the long haul, not just sex. But I do find Asian very exotic and mysterious. Don’t you? I think you even make a similar statement in one of your other posts.
I think the world suffers from the grass is always greener syndrom anyway. So maybe much of this conversation is moot. Maybe it isn’t about Asian or American or African-American or European at all. Maybe we just need to be happy with what we’ve got and accept that everyone has different tastes for different reasons.
June 3rd, 2007 at 8:00 am
secretgeek
It has been my experience that “liking” between guys and girls always includes a sexual component. “Being friends with a girl? What a concept.”
Also, when people search for that kind of stuff on the Internet, they usually aren’t interested in making new platonic friends.
That said, sure I like Asian girls – the same I like black girls or white girls; I am “colorblind” with that. My ex-girlfriend Wilma was Chinese. My new “interest” Yunru is also Chinese. I don’t think I’d call them “mysterious” though. They may have some different ideas and opinions, but in the end they’re just normal people. The “mysterious orient” hasn’t been in 120 years.
June 3rd, 2007 at 10:31 am
ThePirateM
“When Harry Met Sally” comes to mind. You’re right, somehow the sex part always gets in the way. But I still don’t believe that is the only reason or primary reason Asian girls like white (or western) men. I really think there is something deeper there than physical needs. Based on the Asian women I’ve met, I still believe it has to to with an entire package of western men being more romantic, open and (less) unconstrained by historical stereotypical male characteristics.
Don’t get me wrong, we’ve got those in America too. But we don’t have 5000 years of history of women being placed in subserviant roles. That isn’t a slam on anyone. It’s just the facts of Chinese culture.
And I’m glad you’re colorblind. I really wish more people were — even with their own race. I admit after my divorce from a midwestern, blonde hair, blue-eyed girl-next-door type, I was a little put off by many American women. I dated many American women. But it seems like materialism has seeped into our society and culture in recent years.
I found a big difference in the American women I dated versus the two Chinese women I dated. Yep, those Chinese women were normal people. But they also brought a different viewpoint that I guess better fit my desires and concepts of a strong and satisfying relationship.
Thanks for the thread, secretgeek. I deal with this topic everyday. It is always interesting to hear the opinions of others.
July 5th, 2007 at 7:53 am
rachelle
i popped by your page by chance, interesting. seems visitors could post questions for ya…
hm.
i got a question.
what does a guy really mean when he asks a girl to suffer with him for 1 year – during the time he’s really busy and peak of career ?
July 6th, 2007 at 12:45 am
john
men like women because they are feminine and women like men because they are masculine. This is either an evolutionary thing or a god-designed thing (depending on your belief of course), and is necessary for the human race to exist as it does.
western men are larger in build and have more hair and are generally more “masculine” than asian guys. please do not take this as a racist comment at all. i am very respectful to all races and the observation about build and hair are purely physical.
also, asian woman are very feminine since they are small in build and petite and also culturally sometimes they take on a role of “looking after the man” more so than western women do.
therefore, western men and asian women are attracted to each other because of the masculine/feminine attraction.
July 6th, 2007 at 7:08 pm
Ayos
Statistically, the average white male is half an inch larger than the average Asian male, and half an inch smaller than the average black male. Incidentally, the women of each race seem to be sized to match their specific race. On average.
However, as they say, size does not matter, except in cases of extreme difference. As far as length goes, beyond the first 4 inches, women don’t really feel anything – and unless they’re extremely loose, most guys will be “wide” enough that that won’t matter either.
As for men being “romantic” … I haven’t known many black men, and those that I do know aren’t any more romantic than the white guys I know. I’m probably one of the most romantic people that I know, and I’m VERY white. Race doesn’t really have anything to do with the romanticism, it’s simply a matter of upbringing and self. In order to be really romantic, I basically had to choose to be that way and not care if anyone thought it was cheesy or stupid. And I still make that choice – sometimes I don’t want to be romantic. :P
I think the teenage girls in here should stop acting like wenches.
Also, I think everyone’s taking this way too seriously :P
July 8th, 2007 at 8:14 pm
secretspeak
Ayos I really think you’ve earned your right to post here. Unlike some of the other jackasses, I think you made the most sense. Thank you for a post that actually doesn’t raise questions such as. Are you an ass or is there a brain rolling around in that gellatin bowl you call a skull.
July 16th, 2007 at 8:14 am
dontspeak
dude;
im filipina.. and hawaiian…
all my life i been surrounded by white rich folks.. so now that im older.. im dating them.. lol.. i’ve always been attracted to white boys because thats all i’ve been exposed too most o fthe time.. don’t get me wrong.. i know some black boys, asian boys..but i seriously prefer to be with a white one.. idk.. because there hotter
July 18th, 2007 at 1:40 am
secretspeak
What? Is that relevant? We are referring to those who grew up in a traditional Asian environment (I think) surrounded by other asians that go out of the norm and seek caucasian partners.
July 18th, 2007 at 2:27 pm
sandniggah
I’m with don’tspeak on this one (I think)…although I am kinda converse.
I moved to Asia about 14 years ago and have lived in Malaysia, Hongkong, Philippines and Thailand before moving to the great big sand-pit and I have to confess that I have not been interested in western women since then.
July 30th, 2007 at 5:00 pm
kenneth
[Comments deleted: Don't be a racist, Ken. -- Secretgeek]
August 1st, 2007 at 1:40 pm
Stacey
Hi i think white guys love to have sex with girls they love to flirt around. I must admit they are very good in bed positions and stuff. =P
August 22nd, 2007 at 11:14 pm
DAVE KREIGER
I have meet a lot of nice women of all races.However I feel asian women are nicer in demeanor (most of them), willing to listen, more intelligent, and beautiful!! In my most experiences with women. My most positive have been with asians!! I love my girl friend who is asian and she is all the things mentioned above. I have dreamed about them since I was 12 years old!! And still feel the same way!! I went to a high school where most the white girls dated black guys. And i was friends with both parties. For some people the interraceial dating just works it does for me!! I am all for it.
December 3rd, 2007 at 9:07 pm
secret wink
i’ve noticed that asians get a lot of attention…..almost all of my late boyfriends have this wierd asian fantasy…i even have a gay friend and HE likes asians as well….(asian men, but hey..its still asian) so what is it again that makes them so enticing?
December 4th, 2007 at 12:20 am
secretgeek
Uh I pledge the fifth.
December 7th, 2007 at 9:52 pm
secretwink
i see. i ask, and secretgeek for once, cannot answer.
December 21st, 2007 at 8:19 pm
dizzy
I THINK YOU GUYS ARE PUTTING SKIN COLOR IN CATAGORIES.. AND THAT ISNT RIGHT… DICK SIZE DOES NOT MATTER ON THE COLOR OF SKIN ARE THE RACE… EVERYONE IS THERE OWN PERSON AND HAS THERE OWN TRAITS.. PIRATE YOU ARE A SICK JERK… I DONT CARE ABOUT YOUR SCREW SESSIONS… AND SURE YOU MIGHT BE BIG…WHO GIVES A CRAP.. ASIANS LIKE EVERYONE EQUALLY.. ITS JUST DIFFERENT RACED REALATIONSHIPS STICK OUT MORE…SO ALL YOU PEOPLE THAT ARE PUTTING PEOPLE IN CATAGORIES SUCK MY…. BLACK, WHITE, PURPLE, BROWN, ORANGE..COLORED ASS
December 22nd, 2007 at 1:43 am
secretgeek
Well, there ARE certain differences between the various people of mankind.
January 4th, 2008 at 4:43 pm
dizzy
yeah… there is a lot of differences but not all blacks are gangsters, not all asains are smart, and not all mexicans are dumb…. and thats what you all (well not all,but most) are saying…its dumb
January 9th, 2008 at 5:57 pm
secretwink
who was saying that? i don’t recall anyone saying that blacks were gangsters or any of that you just wrote….
January 10th, 2008 at 4:55 pm
dizzy
that was a for instance.. not really stating that anyone said that…DAVE KREIGER said that
“I have meet a lot of nice women of all races.However I feel asian women are nicer in demeanor (most of them), willing to listen, more intelligent, and beautiful!!”
basically stating that most are like that…see secretwink…read everything that people say and you would see where i was going with my comment befor…. :)(sarcasticly)
January 13th, 2008 at 2:30 pm
Blacknight
As a Black Canadian Man, I have dated many women from different cultures and found White women – tend to be nicer to black men, will treat you very well, pay 50/50 for dinners/dates and are more likely to open minded.
Black women tend to be angry about something (the world, society, there career, black men, etc). A lot of them have unreasonable expectations, will not keep themselves in shape and are generally not fun to be around. *Not to say they are all like that, but most of the ones I have come across were.
Most Asian women I’ve met never thought of dating a black man, they all say they would rather date a white man (for them) or Asian man for the sake of there parents. The ones I have met are typically very in tune with the culture, music and dance. But still hold on to there own culture and traditions as well.
January 15th, 2008 at 5:49 pm
dizzy
blacknight…. that was all very well said… why is it like that… everyone basically says the same thing about the races…. so what would i be?
i’m black, puertorican,polish, and just a mutt… but i am basically brown… so what do you think i am…?????????
January 18th, 2008 at 9:08 am
secretgeek
Sounds like a good mix to me. Feel free to submit your pictures to me by email. ;-)
January 30th, 2008 at 7:26 am
Nallin
Hey, great blog, interesting discussion. I have never really dated a chick outside of my race (white) but definitely not because I don’t want to. I live in a small middle-american town with nothing but cows and plows. Anyways, I have always wondered why asian girls like white guys. That makes sense. Although, I think a better question would be why do white guys like asian girls so much? I, personally, love them. :D
I guess it could be because they are so tiny and gorgeous. I don’t know…I can’t think of a valuable reason, really…
I think I am going to browse some more of your entries.
January 30th, 2008 at 4:12 pm
secretgeek
Thanks, welcome aboard.
I’ll think about “why do guys like asian girls” posting. ;)
February 14th, 2008 at 6:11 pm
dizzy
yeah i like my mix…but yeah i agree i think that a betta question would be what Nallin .
February 20th, 2008 at 2:28 am
Brave
Asian women prefer western men because they will be treated more as an equal. Many Asian women want to live in a western country because the lifestyle is more relaxed. Japanese relationships miss that important “best friends” element. Marriage is more about duty than love. (or can be).
Asian women just have it better with us white guys.
March 24th, 2008 at 6:31 pm
Kyrie
…I can calmly consider your answer, granted I am about two years too late for this.
:) Feel free to consider that “Why Guys like Asian Girls” post, though I would enjoy reading that.
April 17th, 2008 at 6:40 pm
Kevin
you want to know why black men tend to shy away from dating black women? check out this video
http://youtube.com/watch?v=6J6dDXW8_TQ
February 18th, 2009 at 6:21 pm
Snook Snook
all woman are sexy, doesnt matter what color or race, i just want to tap all up in their until im dead